tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3601681386361026179.post405921907668609291..comments2023-12-05T17:17:22.422-06:00Comments on The Next Fifty Years: Hubby Thinks I'm a GrouchMartihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03559847090671071342noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3601681386361026179.post-26391474079211062282013-03-16T08:56:47.224-05:002013-03-16T08:56:47.224-05:00I'm positive and supportive of others, but can...I'm positive and supportive of others, but can be really hard on myself. Definitely food for thought. Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02876375845688651131noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3601681386361026179.post-78365376204641480032013-03-11T13:07:30.067-05:002013-03-11T13:07:30.067-05:00LOL I love that. My hubby would like that tax too...LOL I love that. My hubby would like that tax too as he is an ice cream fiend.Martihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03559847090671071342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3601681386361026179.post-76955060952500567042013-03-11T13:06:36.800-05:002013-03-11T13:06:36.800-05:00I hope this works like habit training and we both ...I hope this works like habit training and we both retain it.Martihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03559847090671071342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3601681386361026179.post-13713933182748379572013-03-11T12:58:57.818-05:002013-03-11T12:58:57.818-05:00I completely agree that it's really easy to sl...I completely agree that it's really easy to slip into a very negative cycle. At one stage - in December - Mark taxed me a tub of ice-cream for every full-on rant I had about work. It didn't do his waist line much good but it made us laugh about a difficult situation!!!! JxJanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07341377291617694838noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3601681386361026179.post-65503328240995618492013-03-11T12:53:15.314-05:002013-03-11T12:53:15.314-05:00That is interesting. I've always wondered why...That is interesting. I've always wondered why I remember more of the bad times in my life than the good ones. And yet, I know people who seem to remember more of the good. My daughter is like that, at least she mentions more of the good times. That is a good idea to ask about the things of the day. I think I'll make a practice of that too. Thanks!Martihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03559847090671071342noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3601681386361026179.post-88350382734429254472013-03-11T11:46:11.855-05:002013-03-11T11:46:11.855-05:00What a great goal. I have become much more aware ...What a great goal. I have become much more aware of negative ideas and thoughts. I do try to become more positive, but so many times it is way too easy to slip back into old habits.<br /><br />I wish you both luck. We all need to work on this!Grandma Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12956484930310697573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3601681386361026179.post-31902397361274595112013-03-11T09:45:24.098-05:002013-03-11T09:45:24.098-05:00Good for you Marti! I don't know why it's ...Good for you Marti! I don't know why it's always so much easier to focus on the negative, but bravo for you and your husband for making a conscious decision to focus on the positive. I especially appreciate libbyquilter's comment, and what a great idea to talk about what "stuck" during the day. I'm going to take both of your ideas to heart. Thanks!<br /><br />DebbieDebbie @ MeandMyDIYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16454606067378290761noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3601681386361026179.post-42696632678838611562013-03-11T04:22:51.015-05:002013-03-11T04:22:51.015-05:00Way to go Marti and Hubby ~ Being negative is a de...Way to go Marti and Hubby ~ Being negative is a detriment to our health and well being in all areas of our lives. Encouraging one another goes a long way in making a relationship work better. It isn't easy sometimes, but it is a worthwhile endeavor. We are happier for it.<br /><br />When your loved one is taken out of this life, there is no more conversation with them, no more opportunities to love, encourage, uplift them, so do so while you can, you will not regret it.<br /><br />Love and hugs ~ FlowerLadyFlowerLady Lorrainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17678852154334714784noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3601681386361026179.post-22977809876815788762013-03-11T02:35:21.582-05:002013-03-11T02:35:21.582-05:00it's interesting to read this post as i've...it's interesting to read this post as i've recently read some information about how the brain works in relation to positive and negative thoughts and how long we 'hang on' to them. it turns out that studies are revealing that our brains actually do notice and hang on to negativity longer because at one time in (the not so distant) human history we needed to remember those things that were a threat to us as a matter of survival. it was described as sort of a velcro effect with negative thoughts within our brains and a teflon effect with our postive thoughts. there is some research that shows that we can change this (to some extent) by noticing when we are having a particularly positive or happy moment and taking a second or two to actually feel the good effect of it such as changes in our mood or in our bodies muscle tensions. the more this is done the more the brain will begin to notice the postive in a different and longer lasting way.<br />so lately my husband and i will ask each other what happened during our day that we took a moment to 'make stick' (like velcro). it's been interesting and it definately gives us something to discuss about our day from the perspective of postivity rather than negativity.<br /><br />let me take the opportunity to say that i value you as well and thank you for your comment on my last blog post. <br /><br />:-D<br />libbyQlibbyquilterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03360109482795842401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3601681386361026179.post-70453748577076032382013-03-10T22:30:08.105-05:002013-03-10T22:30:08.105-05:00That's a great goal! Way to go!That's a great goal! Way to go!theahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08621187880594813876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3601681386361026179.post-4023704510773258102013-03-10T20:37:37.705-05:002013-03-10T20:37:37.705-05:00Trying to stay positive is a great goal! I'm w...Trying to stay positive is a great goal! I'm working on it too :)Lenahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16064081200654561079noreply@blogger.com