There are self-help books, website articles, and Bible studies that delve into why people are unhappy and how to change the way you think. There are songs and witty little posters telling us to just be happy. It's never been quite that easy for me. If you have ever thought "I will be happy if _____ happens," then you know what I mean. It used to be "I will be happy when we have money for retirement," or "I will be happy when the house is finished," or "I will be happy when I have a job," or.... the list was endless.
But this morning when I was cleaning the bathroom (yeah, plenty of time to think then), I realized that while I am not deliriously happy, I am content. And I have been content for quite awhile and never really noticed it. We don't have enough retirement savings, the house isn't finished, and I have no job opportunities on the horizon. I still think about all that but somewhere along the line, I quit obsessively worrying about it. Worrying didn't solve any problems, and in fact caused more problems.
And there is a poster for that too.
Used with permission from livelifehappy.com
I'm not sure what I did to end the worry. I prayed, certainly. I also kept busy, connected with friends, and tried to help others. One or all made the difference for me.